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Why Do You Want Your Ex  Boyfriend Back?

Why do you want your ex boyfriend back? It's an important question. If you aren't considering getting him back for the right reasons, it probably makes sense to move on with your life, taking a different direction.

There are very good reasons to rebuild a relationship. If a relationship seemed valuable, full of potential, fulfilling and rewarding, it's hard to let it go. That's particularly true when you're absolutely certain that both of you were (or are) in the throes of true love's passion.

Sometimes great relationships fall apart. When they're worth saving, that's when it makes sense to spring into action. If you're motivated by a loving heart and a deep abiding belief in the value of your relationship, by all means go after him.

In other cases, unfortunately, women opt to pursue ex boyfriends for the wrong reasons. If you think you might be considering going after your man for one of these “lesser” reasons, you might want to reconsider.

These bad justifications include trying to keep a guy merely for the sake of convenience or “insurance”. There's a sense of peace that comes with having someone in your life, but that generic comfort doesn't justify toying with someone's heart or missing out on your opportunity for real love.

Other bad justifications are even easier to spot. If you feel as though you're motivated by anger, jealousy or a sense of revenge, this would be a good time to take a few steps back and to reconsider your decision to try to get your ex boyfriend back. Those motives aren't very strong and they risk making you do something you'll regret in the long run.

Take a long, serious look at what's driving you to want him back. Are you interested in rebuilding your relationship for all of the right reasons, or are your motivations a little murkier? If you aren't sure that you're being guided by your heart because you know the two of you were meant to be together, you might want to stop yourself before you make any significant effort to get your ex boyfriend back.

It's always hard to walk away from a break up, but that doesn't mean you should never do so. There are legitimate reasons to call it quits and there are times when your instinctive drive to get him back might be getting a boost from some unsavory motivators. Don't waste his time or yours if you aren't in this for all of the right reasons.