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Who Should You Be Listening To?

You’re fresh off of a break up and everyone seems to have an opinion for you. The friendly advice is beginning to stack up and the more of it you hear, the more confused you become. At a time like this, who should you be listening to.

One friend says you’re better off without him and that you should try going out on a double date with her and her boyfriend’s cousin. Another friend says that she’s been through this before and that you’ll start to feel better with time. Your mom is telling you to get over it in a hurry and not to let one bad experience with one guy ruin so much of your time. Your little brother wants you to get together with your ex because he thinks your old boyfriend had a great looking car. You have another acquaintance who tells you that you should do whatever it takes to get him back right away, just to prove that you can. Another firend says that… Okay, you get the idea. There are a lot of opinions out there.

Which one are you going to listen to? You might be able to find a kernel of wisdom in everyone’s perspective, but in the end there is only person whose counsel you should heed. This is the one person who best understands your feelings, the nature of your relationship, and what is really best for you.

Do you know who that is? It’s you.

That’s right, it’s time to start tuning out all of the outside wisdom and to look into your heart for direction. A thorough and completely honest self-assessment of the situation is more likely to yield an appropriate series of answers than anything you will hear from those around you. To use a tried and true cliché, this is the time to listen to your heart.

The reasons for trusting your own judgment as you think about whether or not to get your ex boyfriend back should be obvious. No one but you knows how the relationship made you feel. You are the only person in the world who understands the nature and depth of your feelings for him. There is no one better-situated to interpret the context of the relationship and the events that may have led up to your break up. And, in the end, there’s only one person who can make the decision. That person is you.

So, as nice as it would be to have someone come forward with all the answers, the only person who can really help you is you. Some outside advice can be helpful. It can give you perspective or new ways to look at the situation. It can’t, however, answer the big questions for you.

So, now it’s time for some soul-searching. You need to think long and hard about the situation and you need to play close attention to what your heart is telling you. If the end result is a decision to leave the relationship behind, so be it. If, on the other hand, your heart is screaming for you to take action, it is time for you to get busy. It’s time for you to get your ex boyfriend back.