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How to Meet for the First Time After an Online Courtship
You have exchanged maybe dozens of emails, you have talked on the phone late into the night, and you're beginning
to think that you're on line courtship could really turn into something special. Congratulations! You are well on
your way to becoming a successful online dater. This is the spot most people dream of getting to. This is the time
when you have to set up your very first real life meeting. This is often the most exciting time in an online
relationship. However, this can also be a nerve-racking time. Here are some tips for getting youth through the
first meeting.
Tips for setting up your first meeting
If you think you are getting to the point where you want to meet your online love interest in person, feel free to
be the one to take the initiative. Let them know that you are interested in a real date. Keep your safety in mind
always. When setting up your first meeting, choose a location that is public and highly trafficked. Good first date
meeting spots include busy coffeehouses, lunch date at a lively restaurant, or another such public spot. Avoid
giving out your address, work or home, and avoid getting a ride from your online tech interest until you get to
know them better. Carry a cell phone and let someone know where you are and how long you plan to be
there.
Keep your first meeting short and low pressure
No matter how much you like this person, you will make it much easier on the both of you if you have your first
meeting in a busy public place and plan to only meet for a short while. This can save the both of you face in case
you find you don't have the chemistry you thought you had. Also, meaning in a public space allows you to comment on
your surroundings, and thus helping you keep the conversation interesting. A fun, low-pressure environment helps
keep things going.
Making a first good impression
Of course, you will want to make a first good impression the first time you meet your online of interest. Even
though you should keep your first meeting short, friendly and casual, it definitely won't hurt if you dress up a
little. Trust your instincts and let your personality shine. When it comes to conversation, keep things light,
natural and unfriendly. Avoid heavy discussions, such as politics and religion. Save these things for later. Right
now, you just want to see what kind of chemistry the two of you have together in person. Hopefully, you will
already know enough about each other so that you don't have to make lots of awkward first-date small talk.
Setting up the second date
Ideally, things will go great during first meeting. The chemistry you noted during your e-mail and telephone
courtship appears to be alive and well in person. What do you do now? The answer is simple enough: you asked for a
second date. The honest with your date at the end of the afternoon or night, and let them know that you enjoyed
spending time with them, and with love to do it again soon. If you paid attention, chances are that your date
mentioned an interest, or you already know that you share a common interest. This is great fodder for a second
date. Try not to put your date on the spot. Instead, let them know that you are interested in going to the movies,
bowling, hiking or whenever it may be. Asked them if they are interested, and they do seem interested, plan to
coordinate things via e-mail or telephone.
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